Showing posts with label legacy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label legacy. Show all posts

Sunday, September 9, 2012

Eight Year Olds Are My New “Go To” People

By Sandra Miskie 

(aka: Grandma Geezer Ph.D)

I had this naïve thought that when I finished my graduate programs I would know all I needed to know. 

What I really I found out was...
... Just how much more I needed to know! 

Last night was another slap of reality of just how much I need to know in order to function in this world. It was a real eye opener.  An eight year old taught me how to get to Stream Picks, a movie program I paid for but have never used because I didn’t know how to access it. 

SO WONDERFUL AND SMART!


 It was an eight-year-old that taught me about programming phone numbers into my new phone. Now all I have to do is type their name and their number pops up in a flash. I don’t even have to strain my brain. I LOVE IT!!!

Eight year olds are fascinating! 
They are "in your face" honest. They see things so clearly. Now I know that can be annoying to those around them all day but to me they are intriguing because they make no interpretations, but see things straight on - it’s hard to fool them. It is what it is!

Eight year olds like to follow rules. 
Remember the little girl who wrote about being at the airport who was reminding her parents to look both ways before crossing? She was eight.  
My grandson who is now eight popped up and said “Grandma we need you at our school.” “ Is that so, why this time?” “ Jonathan needs some discipline because he’s a yackity yack and I can’t get anything done with him in my ear all the time! The teacher is so done with him!” Needless to say I was rolling on the floor in gales of laughter, but he just stared at me with a serious look. This was a big concern and it needed to be dealt with.
When I asked an eight year old about his parents in a counseling session and what he thought should be done he said, “ If they held hands more maybe they would start to like each other again.”    
Another little girl gave this sage advice on her parent’s marital situation, “They shouldn’t share a bathroom, cause mommy’s things get in the way of daddy’s things. They don’t play well with each other.” 
Another little girl stated that her parents  “…Should pick new friends because they always get in fights with each other. That’s what my teacher tells us if we fight on the playground.”

I remember my own children at that age...
.. Reminding me of the errors of my ways. My oldest reminded me that if I paid attention to my cooking it might taste better. I constantly dropped eggshells in their eggs – I tried to tell them I made special eggs but they weren’t fooled. I wasn’t the greatest cook back then but I have improved greatly. 
My daughter one day told me that I was too easy on the boys and they needed to stay in the corner until dinner and only have one hour of television. The two of them had gotten into some mischief and she wasn’t about to let them get away with it. One day I screamed at my youngest son, “You are driving me up the wall!” He didn’t want to get in trouble so he said, “ Well, if you sat on me then I wouldn’t be able to do that!”

 Eight year olds can "veeeery" compassionate!
My grandson seeing his mother in tears and worried put his hand on her head and said, “Don’t worry mom we have beans!” She was tired and didn’t know what to fix for dinner. 
My daughter came in to read me a bedtime story and tuck me in one evening when I was sick. She said, “You need to take care of yourself mom because we’re going to the movies tomorrow!” 
In a classroom full of eight year olds a very beloved teacher told me about a boy who was being disrespectful to her and how a little girl ran out of the room to go get the principal. From all accounts the little girl was so upset the principal thought the teacher was in grave danger.

Trust me on this! 
Everyone should have an eight year old on their radar to keep their behavior in line, help them with electronic gadgets, keep them up to date on the latest things that matter in the world, to keep things in perspective and most of all to keep you laughing out loud!

Your Ever Learning Pal,

Grandma Geezer Ph.D

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

"A Legacy to Pass On "

By Grandma Geezer Ph.D.

The following statements were designed to make us think before we act. I like them because if I follow their dictates then I can stay out of trouble and personally … I like life without a boatload of problems.

Do I follow these words of wisdom on a regular basis… at least 91% of the time!   I am trying to up my percentage but I seem to have maxed out. However, I will keep trying my best.



He who holds his tongue is wise.
I have hurt so many people by not thinking through what I say before I say it. My children are unfortunately some of the victims of my tongue. I give my opinion before I am asked. They respond quite well by saying, “I am informing you of what I’m doing out of respect but I didn’t ask for your opinion on what I’ll be doing.” Well, ok, I think to myself, you’ve stepped in it again. Now my motto is “I don’t have to live the consequences of their choices. I will be there however they turn out.” If I disagree it’s just because I don’t want them to be hurt…but they are adults and I can’t be there 24/7. The interesting side to this behavior change is that they will ask for my opinion more often. The important part of this as well, don’t forget to apologize for those unintended hurts you caused.

If I don’t like the person I become when I’m with another person or in a particular situation I will at all cost avoid those settings whenever possible.
There are times that this is a hard thing to carry out. If I walk away from a person or situation and I’m furious or deeply bothered by it, I reflect on the person I want to be. When I don’t reflect, the situation escalates into molten lava spewing out on unintended victims. However, if I measure the impact on my life, the stress, the assumed loss of control at the moment, my "pride-o-meter" and other aspects of negative thought processes, I realize the cost is not worth it. 

I like being sane! I don’t like being crazy! 
Being sane means I don’t mull over the situation, I sleep better at night, I don’t head over to McD’s for my fourth ice cream cone (They’re dipped in chocolate now!), I don’t shed buckets of tears and therefore my eyes aren’t puffy and most importantly of all I avoid hurting those I care about.

I want to leave a legacy
What do I want my children and others to say about me at my funeral? 
Will they follow my example in their lives? 
What do they think of me now?
My youngest son who is now in his mid thirties recalls me driving through a McDonalds window to return a nickel. It stuck in his mind that even keeping a nickel that doesn’t belong to you should be returned. That lesson has permeated other aspects of his life. That’s a legacy! You never know what simple little thing you do that will change the way someone will approach life and that will carry through generationally.
My grandson saw a tear running down my face one day as I paused while reading a story to four of my grandchildren. “Are you talking to God again?  He asked me. “Yes I am and I am thanking Him for giving me enough time to meet all of you.” I replied.
 I was diagnosed with terminal cancer and given two months to live and the grandchildren around me hadn’t been born yet. Another legacy —  to remember his grandmother in that way just may make him a better grandparent.
(side note... I have survived a cancer diagnosis for 20 years so far!)

Trust me on this! 
The more you practice the above, the stronger you will become at living a more peaceful, sane life. Thinking ahead, watching what you say and do is the key to happiness. Wealth is not in the amount of things you have it is really measured in the peace you have in whatever chaos is surrounding you. I’m sure all of you out there will surpass the 91% that Grandma Geezer has stalled on. It just might be the hardest thing  you’ve ever worked on but well worth the effort.

Ever Attempting to be Yours Truly,
Grandma Geezer