By Sandra Miskie
(aka: Grandma Geezer Ph.D)
Am I the only one to notice...
...That in order to alleviate guilt people will go to extremes,
trying to disparage another person’s character?
Now let’s be honest all of us have felt guilty,
and it is an ugly emotion to deal with.
Some people drown this emotion with liquor, food or drugs.
Others take more drastic measures to the point of deceit and spreading rumors placing questionable thoughts into naïve minds. In the most ruthless measure death to that person is the only option. Then the guilty party can alleviate any personal responsibility for their behavior and at times it can elevate that person into power.
At this point in her life...
... Grandma Geezer wants to lessen the drama guilt brings.
... Grandma Geezer wants to lessen the drama guilt brings.
As hard as it is, sometimes, to admit a wrong,..
...The peace that follows is the reward. Face up to the consequences, even if that means a long sabbatical from a colleague, friend, group or family member. Change your behavior and work at being more careful in what you say and do.
TRUST ME ON THIS… Don’t let emotions run your life.
Now that may mean that some people call you cold and unapproachable but those are the people who thrive on drama.
...The peace that follows is the reward. Face up to the consequences, even if that means a long sabbatical from a colleague, friend, group or family member. Change your behavior and work at being more careful in what you say and do.
TRUST ME ON THIS… Don’t let emotions run your life.
Now that may mean that some people call you cold and unapproachable but those are the people who thrive on drama.
All of us are far from perfect and need to work on ourselves daily.
Changing behavior is no easy task.
However, every time I’ve let emotions take over, disaster, in many forms will follow. Sometimes it’s small and easy to fix but other times it has cost me in relationships, jobs and reputation. I would get caught up in self righteousness or pity most of the time and make decisions that hurt others deeply. Thankfully, I have three people who decided to be truthful with me. Although it was unpleasant to hear their insights into my poor behavior, I knew it was for my own good.
However, every time I’ve let emotions take over, disaster, in many forms will follow. Sometimes it’s small and easy to fix but other times it has cost me in relationships, jobs and reputation. I would get caught up in self righteousness or pity most of the time and make decisions that hurt others deeply. Thankfully, I have three people who decided to be truthful with me. Although it was unpleasant to hear their insights into my poor behavior, I knew it was for my own good.
The other day my son shared that the first half of their life with me was not good but the second half is going very well. I didn’t like knowing I flubbed the first half but knowing that there has been improvement keeps me motivated to improve myself.
I would like people to know that being perfect...
...And not making mistakes can never be totally achieved. So, I need to admit my errors in judgment and apologize for bad behavior – in doing that I live in tranquility and have no regrets because I am human and consequently will fail at times. With this in mind I am more likely to apologize and face up to the consequences of my behavior.
...And not making mistakes can never be totally achieved. So, I need to admit my errors in judgment and apologize for bad behavior – in doing that I live in tranquility and have no regrets because I am human and consequently will fail at times. With this in mind I am more likely to apologize and face up to the consequences of my behavior.
Keep Working on those Relationships!
Your ever growing, learning and doting friend,
Grandma Geezer Ph.D
