By Sandra Miskie
Aka: "Grandma Geezer Ph.D"
Could it be "Dave" the founder Wendy’s...
... Or the Superman Actor Christopher Reeve ?
These two along with many others have fought through devastating circumstances, are products of their environment because they have given back to society. Their history did not cripple them but gave them a strong resolve to go forward and make things better not only for themselves but for others. They could have easily given up and no one would have blamed them but that was not an option.
Too often we are bombarded with the failures in our society who are labeled victims.
Those icons who had talent beyond measure and came from very poor backgrounds who ended up in morgues with their devastating secrets revealed, these are victims according to the press and others. They added little to society but got a lot of attention and fame along with the big bucks. They chose to give up and ultimately lost their lives.
What is the fine line that separates these two groups?
It’s the people who surrounded them.
What is the fine line that separates these two groups?
It’s the people who surrounded them.
You can be supported or enabled.
A supported person will get wisdom and correction from those around them and will savor it – ultimately making ongoing corrective actions the key in their lifestyle. The enabled person will have “Yes Men” around them who will agree to their demands and do nothing to correct their behavior beyond telling them they could try to change a few things.
We all have people in our lives who will agree with us no matter how wrong we might be,
Especially if we can manipulate their thinking to our belief in the facts. There are also those who know only how to criticize our actions – I avoid them. The third group is someone who will evaluate all situations, give wisdom into the situation not advice and ultimately show us a corrective path. Although the first group feeds our ego they often don’t have the right direction for the solution to our problem.
I have to say, Trust me on this!
The peace I gain from the third group, is phenomenal. My pride has been crushed, my ego in disrepair, my confidence wobbly and my need for repentance is overwhelming but ultimately I know deep down in my soul I am responsible for my behavior in all circumstances. I know my third group of people are the ones who truly care how I finish out my life. I can go forward in the confidence that I will not become a victim. I will become a stronger, wiser individual who will lead others into creating monumental lives and ultimately change things for the better.
So! Go ahead and bravely ask yourself these questions!
Are the circumstances in which you came from crippling you or making you stronger?
Are you taking charge of your life or are others running it for you?
Are you dependent on others or independent in taking care of your daily needs?
These three questions will decide whether you are a victim or product of your environment.
Remember a product gets better and better as it matures.
Product or victim it’s all up to you.
Telling it like it is,
Grandma Geezer Ph.D.
